‘It’s not you, it’s me’ man is a real gent, agree feminists
A man who dumped his girlfriend with the words ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ has been dubbed ‘a real gentleman’ by women’s groups around the world. Twenty eight year old Martin Halliday had been seeing Joanna for four years but explained to her that he was ‘not ready for a relationship’ and that it might be better if they could just be friends.
The couple had just moved in together and had been talking about getting engaged, but last month Martin decided that he wanted to end their relationship. ‘He was lovely about it’ said Joanna. ‘First he suggested that we sat down as we needed to talk. Then he told me that he still loved me, but he wasn’t in love with me and that perhaps we needed some time apart. I asked him why and he just looked me in the eye and said ‘it’s not you, it’s me’. I was disappointed, but I was just relieved that it wasn’t my fault. He was even kind enough to give me until the weekend to move out of our flat. His kindness has really helped me to get over it.’
Women from around the world have hailed the gesture as ‘a truly selfless gesture of chivalry’ and have dubbed Martin ‘a role model for all gentlemen everywhere’. Leading feminist Germaine Greer, who has interviewed both Martin and Joanna since their break up for her new book ‘Actually Some Men Are OK’ said ‘When you think about all the things he could have blamed for the split; her continued failure to have his dinner on the table on time, the bit of weight she’d gained over the last few months and the fact that he found sex with her really dull compared to sex with her best friend.’
Martin has since finished with Joanna’s best friend as well, this time with a text message that said ‘u r chckd ’ ‘It was a really sweet way to do it’ she said.Click to send this story to a friend
Posted: Dec 13th, 2008 by ianslat
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